1Those who work globally are aware that the cultural freedom to express even minor disagreement with people in authority is not universally accepted and disagreements between with superiors are thus manifested very differently.
Here are a few examples.
Explicit hardball challenging: Gilad (m, Israel) argues with his Israeli boss all the time. Gilad challenges the boss’s assumptions and directives in challenging emails as well as by speaking out against the boss’ policy in meetings. US based colleagues who have observed Gilad believe that Gilad shows no respect for his boss. However, once a directive is given, Gilad will carry it out to a T, never trying to stand by passively as things go bad.Gilad and his boss play on the same soccer team and socialize together at the beach.
Behavioural loyalty despite deep hinted differences : Hermann (m Germany) is very critical of his German boss, with whom he has been working for 5 years. In meetings, Hermann asks challenging yet legitimate technical questions and provides in depth risk analysis for his bosses’ proposed suggestions. Hermann will refrain from any other expression of disagreement. In private, Hermann will state that to anyone who will listen that the boss is an idiot. Hermann will loyally carry out the directives of his boss even if they are causing failure. Hermann and his boss move in two different social circles.
Pragmatic Controlled Disagreement: Karen (f USA) believes that her American boss has made several critical errors over the last month. Karen is very pragmatic; she asks some mildly “challenging” questions after adding “well, let me play the devil’s advocate”. Privately, Karen assures her boss that, I am with you”, yet Karen adds her “concerns”. When one of her boss’s directives goes bad, Karen will be remain composed, and not go out of her way to help, allowing things “to take their course”. Karen needs her boss’s recommendations after she leaves to “further her career”. Karen and her boss socialize only at the Christmas party.
Indirect Backdoor-ism: Tree (m Thai) thinks that his Singaporean boss overplays relationships with sales people in the selling process and underplays schmoozing up to the clients’ technical staff, resulting in problems during initial deployment. Tree is very polite to his boss. He never expresses any disagreement, either in meetings or emails. Tree gossips all the time to his boss’s other subordinates about the boss’s errors. Both Tree and his boss know about the disagreement, yet never talk about them, in order to maintain harmony. When a bad decision causes failure, Tree will be very passive and smile. Tree and his boss socialize in the Chinese New Year Party and have lunch twice a week to chat.
So-do not assume that agreement with what you say is real; do not assume that those who challenge you are against you; and don’t ignore gossip but factor it in in societies where harmony is more valued than “truth”.